Love Meg, Xo
And, if he was, he certainly offered no apologies.
I felt I only had one choice: to dwell aka “sit in the feelings” that I had for him: mental and emotional pain, sadness, grief, confusion, despair, resentment, disappointment, and anger.
No, that wouldn’t do. He was absent my entire life. He owed me an explanation! I planned to confront him, make him tell me why he hurt me, and exactly why he was not sorry for it.
Although, in my mind, there was nothing he could really do to make what was wrong, right. My heart still wanted a repentant apology. I wanted him to apologize, mean it — and never go missing again.
So, I looked him up online, by his full name; and there, in the results, was the link for his obituary.
My father was dead.
The truth shattered around me like broken glass: I will never get an apology. I will never know if he truly was (or was not) sorry. No closure whatsoever; left with nothing but — feelings.
Now, with even more feelings to “sit in” than before, I felt cheated, doomed, and destined to wallow in my feelings (until they ultimately consumed me).
It. Was. O-ver-whelm-ing.
I needed to be released from the weight. I needed to forgive him even if he wasn’t sorry; even if he never apologized, and never would.
But, I couldn’t. Forgiveness was just not “my ministry” and actually — what I needed, was at least 25 free passes to be petty, and for him to atone his wrongdoings.
Then, my Father, which art in Heaven, used my earthly father, to school me on Forgiveness.
God taught me that:
1. My parents’ divorce, and my father’s subsequent absence in my life, was written into my story long before I was conceived. It was appointed for my life (Jeremiah 1:5).
2. I was commanded to love my father regardless.
3. I was commanded to forgive my father regardless.
4. I cannot say I love Him (God), if I cannot even love my father (my neighbor) (1 John 4:20-21).
5. I have to forgive, if I expect to be forgiven (Matthew 6:14).
6. Unforgiveness can and will block my blessings. Mark 11:24 requires Mark 11:25-26.
7. I cannot account for the deeds of others; but I can account for my own.
8. Choosing to forgive is a choice.
9. Choosing not to forgive is a choice.
10. Forgiveness frees me. Unforgiveness enslaves me, and can ultimately destroy me.
So, yeah — I’m not really trying to be destroyed. Needless to say, forgiveness became my ministry.
I had to stop being petty, had to release the vice grip I had on the grudges I was holding. I had to stop harboring bad feelings and negative energy. I had to forgive all of the people who had wronged me, sorry or not, my father included.
Man, listen: I never knew how strong I was…
You will never know how strong you are…
Until you make the CHOICE to forgive someone who isn’t sorry. Someone who isn’t offering any apologies.
Forgiving is easier said than done, I know. They really hurt you, I know. But, you will feel so much better when you, simply, let it go.
These are the ten lessons that helped me to become free. Apply them to your lives & may they do the very same for you. Forgive.
Peace and freedom,
Love Meg Xo
Oh! PS: I forgive you, Daddy. May your soul rest in perfect peace.
And you have the wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and discernment they need to help them evolve too…
But, they can’t even wrap their heads around your advice & counsel, because they are still limited by their belief systems.
Remember when you were there?
The truth of the matter is: Jesus did not die on the cross for any of us to be limited. He died for us to be free (and so that we may have everlasting life).
Mental limitations are lies from the pits of Hell; strategically placed to keep us bound by fear and ignorance. To keep is us stagnant and not living up to our fullest potential.
We can tell the people we love, all day, what is right. They can tell us, all day, what is right.
But, until a person is delivered from their own mental limitations; he/she is going to perceive & believe whatever he/she perceives & believes.
That deliverance…that evolution…
Every person does not evolve at the same pace.
We can’t expect people to evolve at the same pace that we do; nor can we determine how long it takes them to evolve — if they ever do, at all.
As hard as it is to watch; we really do have to extend the same grace that God extends to us — to the people we care about.
The only things we can do are: continue to shed light by sharing the truth, pray for them to be free from limitation, remind them that we love them & want what is best for them — and allow them to evolve accordingly.
We’re all one.
We’re in this thang together.
Grace and peace.
Love Meg Xo
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You’re the dopest of them all.
Love Meg Xo
So, your hair appointment is next Friday and you’re out here giving the world a mixture between Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders. You have errands to run, you don’t feel like doing your hair, but you still want to be cute.
What is a woman to do?
Well, whether you are in between hair appointments, having a Bad Hair Day, or just simply avoiding your hair; here are 7 ways to SLAY a Bad Hair Day:
4. The Headband
6. The Beanie
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Love you all to life.
Peace in a bottle of Gorilla Snot.
Love Meg Xo
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